John and Julie Gottman, the developers of the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy, identified nine relationship skills that happy couples frequently practice. The training I received from them validated and strengthened the happiness that my wife and I have together. It also helped me teach other couples these nine skills. The couples who learned and practiced these relationship skills healed their relationships, save many marriages, and made them happy couples. Here are the nine relationship skills that happy couples practice:
The Nine Relationship Skills for a Happier Relationship
Happy couples who live a happy life together frequently—
- Create shared meaning regarding their roles; shared goals; the meaning of home, money, love and affection, sex, and autonomy and independence; and daily rituals of connection with each other, instead of delaying their growth as a couple.
- Prove their commitment and loyalty to each other, instead of assuming it.
- Prove that they’re trustworthy, instead of thinking their partner should just trust them.
- Update themselves on each other’s world, instead of assuming they know.
- Express fondness and appreciation for each other, instead of pointing out each other’s faults.
- Turn toward each other’s bids for connection, instead of turning away or against those bids for connection.
- Make deposits into their emotional bank account by practicing the above skills. Then they have a reserve of goodwill toward each other. That good will makes it easier for them to weather the normal rough spots couples go through.
- Manage conflict in a way that helps them stay connected with each other, instead of not talking for hours or days after an argument.
- Support each other in realizing their individual, personal dreams. They’re each other’s top fan, instead of not caring about each other’s dreams.
These Nine Skills Boost Couples’ Success Rates
For over 35 years, I’ve had success helping hundreds of couples learn how to have healthier, happier relationships. Teaching them the nine relationship skills identified by the Gottmans boosted my couples’ success rates exponentially. So many have thanked me for saving their marriages and relationships, even though they themselves did the work!
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